Women dating bankers
I feel like I'll always have this insight and experience from investment banking. This is the lesson I am going to learn from all of this. The number of times H picked me up in the 4 years I knew him can literally be counted on ONE hand. As he dropped me off and stepped out to give me a last hug, he said he hadn't seen me so happy in a really long time. Everything he said made sense to me honestly and I had a really nice evening. Work has been busy, my manager is away so I've been handling a lot on my own. And I'll cut the supplementary credit cards I have on his account. Unless he has another purpose to the meeting, or other pending issues I don't know about.
As soon as he saw me he smiled and said I looked different. I had been getting a lot of compliments recently about how I was "different". It was better sleep, exercise, vitamins, peace of mind, and no anxiety. I don't want to think about what that means about me dealing with H. Combined with a very close friend's wedding over the weekend and all the celebrations that come with weddings.
Its not something I accept for myself or for any of your girls. I can actively feel myself changing and growing and healing. We talked and he was really amazed/happy/impressed at how good I was. I was feeling really good, and every passing day I only felt better. I knew he was going to work and to therapy and I knew he was going out because people were calling me left and right to check up on me after hearing from H at party X or Y or Z that we had broken up. I'm not sure what to do, but I'm really done with being associated with him.
If he is making you feel like a burden, something is wrong. Literally there are moments when I can feel the positive energy that I'm injecting into my life. I told him that I was glad he was okay and that it was a relief that all the horrible things that H thought would happen to him if we broke up, didn't. When I tell people it's been months they get a bit shocked.
I bumped into H a few times at some common social things, but otherwise kept interaction to almost zero. I've never been fitter, I started a bunch of new athletic activities, I'm socializing more, meeting lots of people (and really cute guys). It was constant surprises and little things and big things and non-things and just..I have no idea where I'm going with this. Loooong story short, before you get TOO excited (probably a bit too late), he has a girlfriend and we set boundaries when we noticed that our friendship was getting a bit in the grey zone. I had the best night I've had since I can remember.
Obviously, its no way to judge but it was very surprising how no one seems surprised that we broke up, almost like it was inevitable and I was the only one who took so long to realize. He settled back into his old group of friends who I found to be very toxic during our university years, which is why I was never interested in connecting with them. I have a chaotic week of work coming up, but that's okay. I sent him a text a few days ago telling him that I agree we should sort out the logistics and to let me know what they are and I'll start working on them. It momentarily frustrated me, but then I figured that it was okay, and didn't matter. It was great bumping into younger students and some people my age looking to change jobs or career paths. It's a couple years old Mac Book and I'm willing to not get it back but I really don't know what to do about the money. Girls this will be a short one until I can get back to each of your comments individually.I told him it completely consumes you and that you have to be strong to handle it but that I firmly believe that it CAN be good for you. It was reassuring that he actually understood why the hell we broke up. I am literally getting compliments on my complexion from people who I don't know that well. He's partying, drinking, going to therapy, showing up to the office, and visiting his family on weekends. I had a deep discussion with a friend from work who didn't know that H and I had broke up. We have a good relationship and are both in it for the long haul.Its a good place to learn and build connections and to grow IF you can get out after some time and not get stuck in the endless chase for the next promotion or the next pay raise or the next bonus. He also indicated that he understood fully that we weren't together but rather working on moving on separately. And then he proposed we meet in one month to close pending logistical issues (refer to my post on "pending issues"). He also explicitly asked me to not buy/sell any of the stocks in my account. The day before I got into an argument with H's closest friend who was also a close friend of mine because I asked him how H was. I'm taking care of ME, and his email is just...distracting. I'm going out with a friend tomorrow who I trust and is usually one of my saviors in times of need, especially with H issues. I write about my daily struggles in dating an investment banker, the ups the downs and the sleepless nights.Hi girls :) I know its been forever, but rest assured its not because anything is wrong. But most of all, I met a guy friend who kinda changed my outlook on just about everything. He was literally the polar opposite of an investment banker. While just being my friend, he was a better boyfriend than H had EVER been. He understood that my family was important to me, he never made me bend over backwards for him. He found joy and happiness in making ME happy, which was something I had literally never experienced.In fact, things have really worked out for the best for me. He took responsibility, there was no such thing as me paying for anything in his presence, or me driving for that matter.