Dating someone 15 years older
When I first started dating my boyfriend, it threw me off when he didn’t text me, but—wait for it— instead.
And continued to call when he said he would and replied to messages fairly quickly.
I’m often asked how we met—and not in a giddy kind of way (it’s more like concern).
People are shocked when I respond “mutual friends.” How could a girl in her early 20s be friends with people in their late 30s?
And while cliché dictates that, sure, men are into it, there’s been some recent research done about younger females often gravitate toward mature men.
Evolutionary psychologists say that relationships like this often occur because while fertility lasts only from puberty to menopause in women, it starts at puberty and can extend long into midlife for lots of men.
While you figure out the math, let me be clear that I’ve met several other women in their early- to mid-20s who also prefer to date from a much older pool for various reasons.Keeping in mind what I’ve learned from my own relationship and anecdotes I’ve picked up from women in similar situations, I’ve outlined the perks and challenges of dating an older man. I get asked a lot of questions about my boyfriend’s finances (why else would I date someone much older, right? It’s not actually anybody’s business, but I can tell you that I’ve never dated anyone because of money.In general, there’s a stigma that a younger woman dates an older man because he’s more powerful and can essentially take care of her.), but the benefits can certainly outweigh those little things.That said, there are not-so-little things that can cause friction too.