Dating a woman with genital herpes
Not to mention these products are often cheap and tacky. Herpes dating apps rely on, profit from and contribute to the social stigma that I am absolutely against. Creating a dating app only for people with herpes feeds into the prejudice that people with STIs shouldn’t date people without STIs. Let me be very clear: I will never endorse an STI dating site. STI dating services would make great hacking targets in an online landscape where vigilante justice is all the rage and people with STIs are unsympathetic victims (whaddup, Ashley Madison). But here’s the big, huge, important fucking reason I’ll never support a herpes dating service: these products contribute to herpes stigma.Like other dating services, they can be unsafe spaces for women where harassment and coercion thrive.When you round up a vulnerable and isolated population, create a community space and fail to moderate it or protect your users, you create a dangerous environment.These folks would be better served by a support community than a dating app.STI dating services are a product of the stigma, not an empowering way out of it.It's going to make the pool of people willing to date you in the future smaller - even if you don't get bad symptoms.
But again, the effects of it's influence on you mental and emotional state is entirely dependent on how you come to terms with it. Everyone has a right to decide whether or not they wish to be exposed to a disease and risk contracting it. Also, HSV-1 and HSV-2 are so similar that virologists are beginning to believe that they are the same virus. But herpes wasn't really a thing that people cared about until the mid 70's when a drug company developed a treatment for it.
So I go on the date were having a good time she's pretty and seems like she's into me I'm feeling pretty good about it at this point.
Fast forward to the next day and I get a text saying before we go any further she has to let me know that she has herpes and that if that's something I'm not okay I with I should let her know now.
But it's sounding like you're implying that the disease affects your brain. And not being clear enough about that is only insinuating myth and adding to the already disproportional social stigma that already comes with this relatively harmless disease. And that friend is being shitty for trying to shame him for making a completely fair decision. The drug company stigmatized herpes (which where just called cold sores at that point) so they could sell herpes treatments, since there was no market for cold sore treatments. A combination of condoms, antivirals, and avoiding sex during outbreaks makes the odds of transmission really, really low, like 1% annually or something.
Seriously, I would strongly advise you get actual data on stds before coming to these kinds of conclusions, as most stds aren't that big of a deal.